and so we hit a big brick wall; the kind that stops you dead in your tracks and waves a big red flag in your face...TRIGGER! Trigger, trigger, trigger....we all have those. What certain situations, words, people, places, etc. drive us to fall back into an unhealthy behavior.
The dialogue starts to chit chat in between my ears
"You're so picky. You always have to have it your way. Why do you have to be so sensitive? Why can't you just eat like everyone else?"....and yada yada yada....
My graduation is soon...next saturday, May 11...and my family wants to have me for the whole day. I can handle that...they want to have a celebratory lunch, but I never recall being asked, "Ashley, what would you like for lunch?" it's just "We're having burgers and hot dogs and turkey dogs; and we can grill a fish for you if you want that instead" And I freeze...like, "haven't I said a million times that I'm a vegetarian? That I don't eat dairy or gluten or high sugar high fat foods because they upset my whole system, turn my mood sour, and make me feel disgusting?" I replied actually saying, "I will just have the fish...I don't do meat or dairy ever" and then two minutes later, "What would you like for dessert? Cake, frozen yogurt?" me, thinking "Didn't I just say...." and here I go, right for the fridge, failing at what I had attempted not to do. Eating because my emotions were hungry. Because I felt empty, unheard, unimportant, not opinionated...even for something like my graduation/birthday celebration... Never being able to choose, always having to make the sacrifices for everyone else....all these thoughts run through my head, and finally I stop, half way through a chocolate hippie vegan coconut ice cream from Trader Joe's..."TRIGGER! Dammit...." but I stopped. I stopped in the midst of a brief moment of chaos in my head...I assessed the situation....I stopped. That's what matters. Like I mentioned in the blog I just posted before this...."it's the picking up of the self that matters the most"...An outer circumstance is an outer circumstance. We can't always choose how people are, what people do, or how they think...but what we can choose is how we respond...we can be strong in the gusty winds that attempt to knock us off our feet. It's also part of the lesson.
"Don't take anything personally".....they aren't doing it to hurt me...they just don't realize that what they do hurts me....or what they don't do might suffice as a better phrase...
I'm finished now.... Told you I'm human...
The dialogue starts to chit chat in between my ears
"You're so picky. You always have to have it your way. Why do you have to be so sensitive? Why can't you just eat like everyone else?"....and yada yada yada....
My graduation is soon...next saturday, May 11...and my family wants to have me for the whole day. I can handle that...they want to have a celebratory lunch, but I never recall being asked, "Ashley, what would you like for lunch?" it's just "We're having burgers and hot dogs and turkey dogs; and we can grill a fish for you if you want that instead" And I freeze...like, "haven't I said a million times that I'm a vegetarian? That I don't eat dairy or gluten or high sugar high fat foods because they upset my whole system, turn my mood sour, and make me feel disgusting?" I replied actually saying, "I will just have the fish...I don't do meat or dairy ever" and then two minutes later, "What would you like for dessert? Cake, frozen yogurt?" me, thinking "Didn't I just say...." and here I go, right for the fridge, failing at what I had attempted not to do. Eating because my emotions were hungry. Because I felt empty, unheard, unimportant, not opinionated...even for something like my graduation/birthday celebration... Never being able to choose, always having to make the sacrifices for everyone else....all these thoughts run through my head, and finally I stop, half way through a chocolate hippie vegan coconut ice cream from Trader Joe's..."TRIGGER! Dammit...." but I stopped. I stopped in the midst of a brief moment of chaos in my head...I assessed the situation....I stopped. That's what matters. Like I mentioned in the blog I just posted before this...."it's the picking up of the self that matters the most"...An outer circumstance is an outer circumstance. We can't always choose how people are, what people do, or how they think...but what we can choose is how we respond...we can be strong in the gusty winds that attempt to knock us off our feet. It's also part of the lesson.
"Don't take anything personally".....they aren't doing it to hurt me...they just don't realize that what they do hurts me....or what they don't do might suffice as a better phrase...
I'm finished now.... Told you I'm human...
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